Lessons from Parenting

March 9, 2017

There are many quotes based on the pattern:

No "x" survives contact with "y" where "x" is a strategy to tackle "y"

Examples include:

1. No business plan survives first contact with customers. The Startup Owners Manual: A Step-by-Step Guide for Building a Great Company First Edition, 2012 by Steve Blank, p. 53

2. No battle plan ever survives contact with the enemy. Quoted in Donnybrook : The Battle of Bull Run, 1861 (2005) by David Detzer, p. 233

I'd like to add another one to this tradition

No parenting bayan survives first contact with your own children.

Kids sure know how to make you feel like a hypocrite.

The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم mentioned in a beautiful hadith:

ليس الخبر كالمعاينة

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No amount of studying, preaching, advising or listening it can substitute experience. Every fresh college graduate looking for a job knows is made painfully aware of this fact. Most people will agree with this idea in principle. However, they fail to apply this principle in many important aspects. For example, why do we take advice from people that are inexperienced in the field they are advising of? Would you take parenting advice from an 18 year old bachelor no matter how much he had studied? ًWhy do we take advice from 'scholars' that don't practice what they preach - no matter how eloquent they are? Why do we have muslim children learning(sic) Islam from non-muslims?

فاقد الشيء لا يعطيه